September is National Menopause Awareness Month! How do you "rock" your menopause? Graphic created by Rock My Menopause.

My trek through the menopause wilderness continues! And yes, this week, it feels like dense and rugged terrain. Trying to make sense of it all, I’ve started to track some of my more interesting finds by making “curated” boards on Pinterest. Yes, Pinterest…which, judgy eye roll aside, is actually proving to be an efficient way to tag and save info that’s useful (or distinct) in its take on menopause-related issues. It was through my Pinterest project, that I discovered that Menopause Awareness Month is a thing, and apparently it’s this month...(and is NOT to be confused with World Menopause Month, which is next month). With all of this global awareness building and recognition going on (although limited to a season, it seems) you’d think we’d be further along with this meno crusade, but alas, it continues! Which brings us to this week’s Featured Find post!!! For those of you who are new the blog (i.e., you haven’t read the previous three blogs…yet), you’ll know the “Featured Find” is my unsolicited take on all things I find helpful, relevant and interesting as they relate to the modern menopause experience. And I do mean all things…


Since it’s Menopause Awareness Month, I thought it most appropriate to start with an advocacy-related find and do my part to help drive awareness. Hence, this week’s first Featured Find is “Rock My Menopause,” a movement-building campaign that wants to end the taboo around menopause and make people “menopause aware.” HEAR! HEAR! The web-based campaign is sponsored by the Primary Care Women’s Health Forum (based in, you guessed it! the UK), and features a vibrant and energetic website calling all menopausal women, their loved ones, supporters and allies to educate themselves and others about menopause and bring it into “the mainstream.” The site also presents a thoughtfully inclusive use of visually diverse women – from age, to ethnicity, to faith – which, as we know, accurately reflects the spectrum of experiences.


Another helpful thing about the site, is that it includes the core components of any solid campaign, with a clear call “to break the taboo of menopause,” and easy, actionable steps to take, like educate yourself and talk to your doctor. To help with this, you can download their “menofesto” and share your story, or join the closed Facebook community to be a part of the ongoing conversation. You can also sign the pledge to be a #MENOVIST and do your part to demystify and de-stigmatize “the menopause.” Perhaps the best part is that you can do all this advocacy from the comfort of, well, anywhere. If armchair advocacy isn’t your thing, but you want to track the movement, you can follow along on their Instagram account, which like the campaign site, is both informative and visually engaging.


Another Featured Find, Menopause Health Matters, is also a useful resource worth mentioning this month, especially if you’re a purist or more understated in you advocacy. Unlike “Rock My Menopause,” Menopause Health Matters (MHM) does not rely on form, and is pretty straightforward in function. MHM is “an independent, clinician backed women’s health and wellness website,” that wants to empower women to be their own “health advocate.” While visually underwhelming (albeit clean and professional), the MHM site is all about educating you on the many stages and aspects of menopause. It’s thorough in the range of information presented and easy to navigate, given its simplicity. If you don’t want to be distracted by bold images and calls to action in social media speak, then this may be a better resource for you. Because they aren’t a visual platform, you won’t find MHM on Instagram, but you can engage with them on Facebook and Twitter.


Even though we’re halfway through it, there’s still time to jump in and help spread awareness by lending your voice (actual or digital) to the menopause movement. And not to worry, if you’ve got a lot going on this month, and would do something IF you had the time, there’s always World Menopause Month.



Post-menopausal syndrome and the attack on the scammers...

So, I’m watching the nightly news, and a story comes on about assholes scamming elderly, unwitting people out of their life savings, and I find myself wanting, hoping that one would call ME just so I could mess with them. I played the whole scenario out in my head, CRAFTY in my commitment to take one down… I would go along with the scam, asking them where I should send the money, then go about my day. When they realized that I wasn’t sending any money and the harassment continued, I would answer their next few calls with elevator muzak until they hung up. After that went on for a while (as I understand they are persistent), I would answer as if we’d never spoken before and begin to engage them in discussions about Satan and how they’d be welcome at his table, but not as a guest, as the main course. For effect, I would maintain a normal and controlled, even pleasant tone -- similar to that of Norman Bates in his creepy closing scene…you know the one. Then, having sufficiently weirded out my unworthy adversary and ending the harassment, I would gloat in the victory of having proven that MY CRAZY WINS!!!


True story. I mean, not that any of this actually happened…just that I actually played this out in great detail (as described) in my head over the course of 10 minutes (or more). I know… THIS IS NOT NORMAL! I can’t even tell you what the rest of the nightly news was about because my thought bubble took over (which happens a lot these days). But honestly, it’s safer for me in there – especially when the hostility kicks in. That’s when I realize that it’s got to be the PMS – only these days, instead of “pre” the “P” stands for “All the time”. Talk about a perimenopausal head trip…


It used to be these bouts of unbridled hostility came before my period, now they come after. And girl, do they come. At least when they came on before, it was a sign of what was to come and I knew they would subside once my Flo came. But now, when they come after, ‘AINT NO TELLIN’ WHAT’S GONNA HAPPEN and that’s just not a good thing, especially at work. I want to battle EVERYONE I TALK TO and I can’t tell if it’s because everyone else is stupid or if I’m having a disproportionate (and inappropriate) response to everything they say (which is probably stupid). To be fair, it really could be either…

Updated: Sep 2, 2019


If you're having meno problems I feel bad for you, hon...

Okay, so I’m not really going to list my 99 problems with menopause. But to start, one of my biggest frustrations with this sh*t, is sifting through THE OVERWHELMING AMOUNT OF INFORMATION out there embedded throughout the digisphere. Just try Googling “menopause” and you get more than 118 Million results…I mean, really? What am I supposed to do with ALL OF THAT??? My particular problem, is that a lot of what rises to the top is underwhelming, generic, hokey-pokey crap. BUT, if you’ve got hours to spend (and the patience of a pregnant elephant), amidst all of the clutter, you’ll eventually stumble across some pretty interesting stuff…


I don’t know about you, but most days I have the attention span (and bladder) of a three-year old, so efficiency and brevity definitely rule… Which brings me to, “Featured Finds” – my pithy attempt to highlight potentially useful (if not curious) info that might help make your menopause trek a little less daunting and a lot more interesting! This week I’ve been sussing out the menopause landscape on Instagram and was compelled to spend some time with a couple of accounts. Check them out below and let me know what you think and what you’re tracking!


Featured Find #1 : @megsmenopause - With more than 27K followers on IG, Meg Mathews is UK-based (a là “the menopause”), with global reach and appeal. Anchored in the feminine pink, Meg’s Instagram account is an aesthetically smart (i.e., beautifully curated images and content), comprehensive mix of menopause facts and insights, inspirational quotes, product highlights (including her own), and direct, relatable testimonials about the struggle that is menopause. She affectionately refers her followers “menos”, quickly establishing an ease and relatability that can be comforting during times of stress. For the most part, the “menos” are down with Meg’s menopause vibe, and are pretty engaged through comments and likes to her posts.


Earlier this summer, she launched a new IGTV series, “The Symptoms”, where each week she addresses one (or more) of the 34 symptoms related to menopause. Most of the videos are under 6 minutes and are Meg’s firsthand take on the topic (as we learn from watching the series, she’s among the enviable few unaffected by hot flushes…ahem, or flashes, if you prefer). Although she does enlist medical perspectives from time to time, LET ME BE CLEAR, Meg is not a medical professional (and doesn’t pretend to be). If it’s a straightforward medical perspective you’re looking for (which feels like an oxymoron and the point of this whole blog), @megsmenopause is likely not the IG community for you.


As I mentioned before, Meg does have her own product line so there is money to be made (no shade here!). Even so, I didn’t feel overwhelmed or pressured to buy her products, and didn’t come away feeling like that’s her end game…not exclusively, anyway. As the mother of a hormonal teenager, I also really appreciated the open conversation she has with her own teenage daughter about how her struggle with menopause affects the family. Anyway, Meg’s been at this for a couple of years now and has a pretty sophisticated ecosystem of content, including a podcast and an annual conference. You can check out more about Meg and her mighty menopause mission at www.megsmenopause.com.


Featured Find #2 : @peri_menopause_nutritionist is another U.K.-based find who has a notable IG presence that I decided to start following this week (BTW, the Brits seem to be leading the charge on normalizing menopause overall). The account is managed by Shirly Agullano, a credentialed menopause nutritionist (i.e., she’s got A LOT of letters behind her name) who’s all about managing perimenopause through nutrition and wellness (not that there’s anything wrong with HRT!). Specifically, she wants to “help you make healthy diet and lifestyle choices so you thrive through perimenopause and menopause.”


Even though she’s not quite broken 1K followers (899 at time of this post), her content is clean, modern and straightforward (in a good way)*. Shirly encourages us to eat healthy, posting vibrant and colorful pictures of what would otherwise be (and really is), boring old baked chicken and lettuce with some fixins. She highlights these healthy food alternatives, offering recipes and making them look appetizing, while subtly seducing you to do better (or to think about doing better, anyway). While I don’t know that I’ll need to track this feed everyday, I could see me going back from time to time to see what Shirly’s got cooking.


Note: Shirly does have a wellness consulting service, “Warm Blush”, through which she provides nutrition and lifestyle plans to better manage a woman’s menopausal symptoms. This Fast Find note is specific to her Instagram account, which is visually inconsistent with her “Warm Blush” website.



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